Different isn’t wrong. It’s the point.

For years, I thought I had to be more like them. More focused. More upbeat. Less sensitive. Better at small talk. I figured if I could just shave off the edges, I’d finally fit. Finally feel like I was doing life “right.”

But the older I get, the more I see it: different isn’t wrong. It’s just different. And actually? That’s the whole point.

Somewhere along the way, we started treating difference like a problem. If someone talks slower, feels more, works in bursts instead of steady sprints—we call it inefficient. Or difficult. Or “not a team player.” But that’s not true. It’s just unfamiliar.

We forget that humans were designed to work differently. In the early days, no one person could do it all. One person kept watch at night. Another rose early to knead the bread. One was the storyteller. One built the shelter. One sensed danger before anyone else saw it. That wasn’t dysfunction—it was survival.

The same thing applies now, even if our “village” looks like Zoom calls, Slack pings, and shared calendars.

Some people are great in a crisis. Others are the slow-burn thinkers you want shaping big plans. There are folks who feel everything and folks who say it like it is. We need all of it. It only breaks down when we assume our way is the only right way.

The comparison trap is real, though. I’ve been there—wondering why I couldn’t work faster, or why that one coworker seemed unbothered by things that wrecked me. But instead of beating yourself up or wishing other people would change, there’s a better question to ask: “What’s my role in the village?”

What am I good at? What comes naturally? What do I bring to the table without even trying?

That’s not selfish. That’s the job.

When you show up as the real you, you unlock your part of the system. Not a copy of someone else. Not a watered-down version of yourself. You. That’s what makes the whole thing work.

And when we make space for each other to do the same—when people have what they need to be who they are—we get the full picture. Thinkers and feelers. Sprinters and marathoners. Builders and beautifiers. Loud voices and quiet anchors. The kind of balance that keeps things moving and meaningful.

That’s why Unsnag exists. To help you untangle from the pressure to be different, and reconnect with the version of you that’s already working. The one that belongs.

Because the world doesn’t need you to fit a mold. It needs you to bring what only you can.